Friday, March 09, 2007

The Dichotomy of Leaving

I've started this post 3 or 4 times, and never can come up with the right words. The past several weeks have been insane, and all the things I wanted to blog about, I haven't been able to. You see, we've been in the process of looking for jobs in North Carolina. Once we found out that I was expecting in September, we realized quickly that we needed to move. We can hardly afford living in Northern Virginia with one child, much less two. Not only that, but Shepherd is getting older, and we really want him to know his grandparents. Being so far away has limited his time with them, so moving closer to home would be a huge blessing.

We started the process fully aware that it might take some time for Forrest to secure a good job. We didn't want him to take just anything, it had to be great. The first few places he contacted weren't hiring, but were extremely excited about him being back in the area (read: Forrest ROCKS at what he does and people were WISHING they could hire him) (he's going to kill me for that comment). Anyways... Forrest heard through a friend that a firm near our families was hiring. He contacted them, and immediately they set up an interview. He loved the place, he loved the place, and they made him an offer. We hemmed and hawed for about a week, trying to decide what to do. Was this the place for us? Was this it? And finally, decided that this was it. That he'd take the job and we'd move.

I told some friends that I was surprised by my initial reaction. I was excited to be closer to home, to be in North Carolina again, where the pace of life is much, much slower, where my kids will know their grandparents, and where rent was WAYYYY more affordable. Yet at the same time, I was sort of bummed to leave some dear friends that I've met, and grown close to, especially in the past few months. I know these types of friends are hard to come by, and these two are one in a million. There are many other friends we've made in the past 6 months, and they will be hard to leave as well. So in lieu of singing the Hallellujah chorus 2 octaves higher than necessary, I found myself torn between these two emotions. I love my friends, yet I hate living here. I'm excited about moving home, yet terrified I won't make new friends like the ones I have. I've offered to pack my friends up in a box and move them with me, but they objected with some excuse about having a family to take care of, or something lame like that. :)

So anyways, I guess this is all to say that we're excited about moving. When I think about the house we're going to live in (yes, we already found a house to rent!) (a real live house) (with a back yard) (and a garage) (at 25% less than we're paying for our current 2 bedroom hole in the wall) I get really excited. I can't wait to have a place to let Shepherd run around. I can't wait to be close to my mom and dad. To be close to my in-laws. To be somewhere familiar again. To be home.......

Yes, this is our real live house.... I can't wait

14 comments:

jenn said...

Congrats! I've been reading your blog for ages since your son and mine (Miles) were born on the same day (I think I commented here before). I live in Chapel Hill (go Heels!) and am part of a weekly playgroup as well as some other stuff. We should meet up sometime. Going between Raleigh and CH can be a haul, but perhaps we can hook up in between every once in awhile. Feel free to email me when you're settled in!

Corinne said...

Jenn, we'll be living in W-S actually, but would totally love to get your e-mail. I couldn't access your profile, so drop me a line using your e-mail (corinnyatgmaildotcom).

Reesh said...

Wow! Big changes coming your way. And a house, how nice! Well, it was hard to leave our Vancouver friends when we moved here just before Lily was born. But we have made a ton of new friends and I'm sure you'll do the same in your new town. Having kid's just kinda attracts friends, that and you have to get out of the house or you'll go insane, so I'm sure you'll be going to playgroups and diaper gyms and whatnot.

Alissa said...

What a pretty house! Congratulations on the job and move and house...

You will still have your friends after you move. You might not get to hang out with them often, but with phones and e-mail they won't seem so far away. I haven't seen my dearest friend in 4 years, and while I do miss her terribly we're as close as ever thru e-mail and telephone calls.

Again, congrats! This is wonderful news!

Isabel said...

Sounds like some very exciting changes are coming your way. I know it's hard to leave good friends...but I guess that's a part of life. It sucks, I know.

And the house...it's beautiful.

Congrats!!!!!

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

I'm happy for you, but sad for us.

We'll just have to find a way to come and visit.

rachel spiceland said...

I'm so excited that you're moving back to NC! Partly, I'd really like to see you guys, because I haven't seen you in forever (evidenced by the fact that I've never even seen Shepherd in person!) and I even have a present for you, that I bought 2 weeks ago!

Anyway, I'll definitely be praying for you guys, with the move and all the craziness that will surely happen around it!

Courtney Tucker said...

How fun! I'm sure you struggled with making those decisions, but it sounds like you are happy with it and I'm glad for you. We're in W-S too so if you ever want to get together, feel free to email me. And congratulations!

haricot_vert@mac.com said...

Congrats! New job, new baby, new home. You're facing a lot of the same emotions you initially had when moving to noVA. You seem like a super sweet chick, I'm sure you'll make more friends. I maintain, as long as you still have the internet, you can easily keep in touch with only friends.
Mael

Kristin said...

It will be so nice to be in a house, especially with (almost) 2 kiddos!

Congrats & best wishes on an easy move!

Tina said...

:-( moving? so soon?

Glad he found an exciting job though! And the house! It is all very exciting!

Chris said...

Congrats! And "The Dichotomy of Leaving" sounds like a great album title.

Erika said...

I am so, so jealous of you. How I would love the flexibility to be near both families (or at least mine, if they were still in NC!)...it's such a terrific place to grow up, and plus all these exciting opportunities for Forrest and the great new house. SO JEALOUS!!

Anonymous said...

Again the world gets just a little bit smaller! I lived in W-S for many years and my mom still lives there so we visit often.

I'm excited that you are moving back to NC, it seems like you've missed it a lot. I'm glad things have worked out for the best! When will the offical move be?

-Leah